Motherhood; no it isn’t something you just know how to do!

My son’s cat had kittens this week and bless her heart, it was not a seamless experience. He called me out of concern and I could hear Fiona’s desperate meows in the background. There were four kittens in the box he had prepared for them, one still in the amniotic sac, that hadn’t made it. She was howling for help. I was working and couldn’t help much but I told him “something is wrong, she shouldn’t be crying like that”. Later I learned she delivered two more and had calmed down some. Mamma Fiona, would bring the kittens and drop them at his feet and cry. She was distraught. My son sat with her in the bedroom floor and she eventually calmed, nursed them, and relaxed. I told Logan, “She thinks of you as her mommy, she needs you.”

We aren’t born knowing how to do it, contrary to popular belief. It is a learning process forever.

Society doesn’t give us mom’s much of a break. The expectations are high and the societal rewards, well, there really aren’t any.

So many ingrained things that are expected. I wake up in the morning and wonder what I will do for dinner. I know my husband NEVER thinks that.

I feel guilty if I don’t keep the laundry up and I feel responsible when there is family discourse.

I try REALLY hard not to have those feelings but I do.

Having a career, is always secondary. We are the ones who stay home with sick kids. We rearrange our work schedules around school events.

It is what we do. When mom’s are struggling and working over time, not making those talent shows or providing treats for holidays, they are looked down on.

There is no room for your personality. You should know how to create the perfect gingerbread man and design the most epic Halloween costume.

I can not bake gingerbread and have made a few costumes but they were for myself. I am not the home room mom!!

My son said to me, “Oh my god this has been so stressful!” I said “imagine how it was for her”!!